Before waiting, you might want to do that at least and determine how long you will delay your happiness on someone else. His wife gets his name, his home, his holidays and vacation memories, his bed, and the dignity of being publicly recognized as his life partner. You deserve someone who will proudly call you their boyfriend. She leaves behind a note promising to wait for him on the other side. You can either let that happen or make it easy for him by asking him directly.
Join a group, sign up for a class, or volunteer in your community so you can be among others.
Now that is something I know to be true. I still have a crush on my ex and miss his hugs and how safe I felt with him.